22 January, 2020
A rebuke & A lesson
I was always poor. In remembering names. On that side of 50. In school. In College. In club. In locality. I remembered nicknames well.
On this side of 50, matters have worsened. I look for a name tag in meetings. In office meetings. And I say ‘Aah Kumar Ji, how are you?’
This is a bad trait I have. Almost a disability. To remember names.
My close ones mock me. They laugh at me. And I also think that they actually want to tell me that they do not like this trait in me.
I too do not like it.
Yesterday I met someone at a Party. She came and spoke. Smiling. Familiar. And forgotten. Name.
We spoke and she went away to catch up elsewhere.
As I stood with my dinner plate with a few friends, she walked straight up to me. And asked ‘ Do you remember me?’
I understood she was not happy. So I did not lie. I said ‘No.’
She said ‘I am Dr ….. we worked on … in 2010.’
I remembered immediately and apologised.
She said ( read rebuked ): ‘This is not good. It should not happen next time we meet’.
This was a good lesson for me. A public rebuke.
I must work on remembering names. Not remembering names of colleagues and friends, past and present is disrespectful.
Thank you Dr…… for the rebuke.